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Monday, November 7, 2016

Who's controlling your life ?

Who controls your life?  This is not a religious or trick question .....I am just asking are you in control of your life?  Who makes your decisions for you?  Are some or most of your decisions influenced by other people or do you have the final say?

People grow up being controlled by other people.   In your youth, your parents had a lot of influence on what you think, what you did and how you respond to challenges in life.  As did your teachers in school.  The fact that they come from an earlier dimension with outdated viewpoints did not really make you think then,  did it?  Have you ever thought about some of those ideas since?

 As people grow older some tend to become more independent than others and some even start to think for themselves. They discover that thinking is actually not illegal.

Then there is my favorite word: Dogma.  Most people are influenced by Dogma and whether they are aware of this or not - it gives some security in that you can always find someone that will back up an idea. When in doubt - ask an expert?  Which expert?  If it was ok for your dad - it is ok for you.

Then there are the accepted ways of doing things - probably related to Dogma but not quite Dogma
You must obey all rules - if there is a rule someone made it with good intentions and I haven't got time to query the status quo - it has become a comfort zone.

Ah, comfort zones  - Comfort zones are life-controlling mechanisms.  It is comfortable to do things the way everyone accepts it. But who makes the rules? Who created the zone is mostly immaterial - it is a comfort zone and "I like it and I am not getting out of it"

As you grow older new people start taking control of your life...........The sister in the Retirement Village.  The manager in the old age home.  Your children - because you are now getting old and not able to think for yourself ................Most of these are well-intended but some are downright interference in parent's life - I will post about this in a follow up on this blog. In the interest of the majority, certain rules are made in community housing developments for the good of the cause, but some are also downright interference in the lives of the people living there.  And you toe the line, you are just a number.........Even your grave has a number.


Who out there will say with me:  "I am in control of my life.  I will not accept Dogma in my life. I will query the status quo. I will not be a pushover. I have the knowledge and the right not to accept interference in my life if it does not suit me. I will go climb a mountain even if it kills me.  I will learn a new skill - I need to change my life to make it more acceptable and comfortable for ME.