No Matter what wikipedia says this is the actual meaning of certain words when used by a woman:
“Fine”: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
“Five Minutes”: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
“Nothing”: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
“Go Ahead”: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
“Loud Sigh”: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
“That's Okay”: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
“Thanks ‘: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' - that will bring on a 'whatever').
“Whatever”: Is a woman's way of saying S^%$ you!
“Don't worry, I'll do it”: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
Thank you Paul Kruger - Moonstone for all these fine articles
Monday, September 20, 2010
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Life after the world cup
A lot has been written about the pros and cons of the world cup. Was it a good thing or a bad thing ?
And as I always content everyone has the right to his own opinion even though it might be wrong. Anyway here is some of my perspective:
We flew down to Cape Town, stayed a week and flew back to civilization - The republic of Centurion.
For one I was impressed with the obvious friendliness of the service staff all over the place - even the police walking around smiled ! The booking staff of Kulula really shined ! ( Maybe it was because it was Kulula ?)
The airport was as clean as you ever can imagine. The flight was incredible (Sorry about this but maybe it - was again the airline) We landed in Cape Town and by the time I got to the bagage retrieval our baggage was actually out - We were at the car hire within 10 minutes of landing. Now this has never happened before. Cape Town airport really sucked before the very obvious revamp.
Then the experience with the Car hire company. I was in our brand new car within 10 minutes after that.
A brand new Ford Figo - it had exactly 20 kilometers on the clock. (would have prefered a VW, but what the heck I really enjoyed this little car which I drove for just over 1200 kms during the week)
Then we booked in at the Strand Pavilion - and again - I have never had such a friendly reception anywhere at a timeshare resort. (and of course they could actually speak my home language - Afrikaans!) The service at this resort for the week was out of this world (I nearly said Out of Africa)
Why am I renting and raving about all this ? Well let me tell you if it took the world cup to make life so enjoyable they can have another one next year and I will not complain about tax payers money ever again !
One thing I am very sure about - all these improvements is not just accidental or by chance - South Africa actually stood up and said : We will be counted and the frase: Out of this world might just be changed to out of South Africa.
And as I always content everyone has the right to his own opinion even though it might be wrong. Anyway here is some of my perspective:
We flew down to Cape Town, stayed a week and flew back to civilization - The republic of Centurion.
For one I was impressed with the obvious friendliness of the service staff all over the place - even the police walking around smiled ! The booking staff of Kulula really shined ! ( Maybe it was because it was Kulula ?)
The airport was as clean as you ever can imagine. The flight was incredible (Sorry about this but maybe it - was again the airline) We landed in Cape Town and by the time I got to the bagage retrieval our baggage was actually out - We were at the car hire within 10 minutes of landing. Now this has never happened before. Cape Town airport really sucked before the very obvious revamp.
Then the experience with the Car hire company. I was in our brand new car within 10 minutes after that.
A brand new Ford Figo - it had exactly 20 kilometers on the clock. (would have prefered a VW, but what the heck I really enjoyed this little car which I drove for just over 1200 kms during the week)
Then we booked in at the Strand Pavilion - and again - I have never had such a friendly reception anywhere at a timeshare resort. (and of course they could actually speak my home language - Afrikaans!) The service at this resort for the week was out of this world (I nearly said Out of Africa)
Why am I renting and raving about all this ? Well let me tell you if it took the world cup to make life so enjoyable they can have another one next year and I will not complain about tax payers money ever again !
One thing I am very sure about - all these improvements is not just accidental or by chance - South Africa actually stood up and said : We will be counted and the frase: Out of this world might just be changed to out of South Africa.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Debating and all that jazz
I somehow landed on a contentious website the other day and had a look at some of the discussions there.
It was quite interesting to see people debating a point on this website while the owner does not respond or possibly is not even following the discussion. One thing that came out though is that some of the debaters
does not know the basic ethics of debating
As I always content : You have the right to your opinion even if it is wrong ( in my opinion ) And you have the right to state it. The present government with its blame shifting on Apartheid for everything is a good example
My basic Rule nr 1.
Debate the point - play the ball , not the man. If you do not like the other person's viewpoint don't get involved. DO NOT START CALLING THEM NAMES. Do not be defamatory. This actually places you at the lowest level in the argument. It tells the other person you are not worthy to debate with.
This happens a lot when people debate politics and religion. If you differ from the other person make your point. Do not be irrational - making points not proven is an example. Accepting so called facts where the evidence is not obvious is also a point in question. A recent article by a preacher on the creation in a newspaper is a very good example. He accepts the so-called evidence of certain scientists as absolute evidence. No questions asked. Even to the extent that he says : One cannot understand why people does not accept this ? Who is the one he is talking about. It is like talking to me and keep on asking the question:
"Of course you agree with me, don't you" This is irrational in my books.
Who are most prone to being irrational : Atheists, Some Christians, SomeVegetarians ,
Why do I say this ? They think they have a point but do not know what it is. They believe they are right without being able to say why or being prepared to listen - By the way you have 2 ears and one mouth.
You cannot get involved in a debate without being prepared to listen and to speak - Just make sense when you do.
It was quite interesting to see people debating a point on this website while the owner does not respond or possibly is not even following the discussion. One thing that came out though is that some of the debaters
does not know the basic ethics of debating
As I always content : You have the right to your opinion even if it is wrong ( in my opinion ) And you have the right to state it. The present government with its blame shifting on Apartheid for everything is a good example
My basic Rule nr 1.
Debate the point - play the ball , not the man. If you do not like the other person's viewpoint don't get involved. DO NOT START CALLING THEM NAMES. Do not be defamatory. This actually places you at the lowest level in the argument. It tells the other person you are not worthy to debate with.
This happens a lot when people debate politics and religion. If you differ from the other person make your point. Do not be irrational - making points not proven is an example. Accepting so called facts where the evidence is not obvious is also a point in question. A recent article by a preacher on the creation in a newspaper is a very good example. He accepts the so-called evidence of certain scientists as absolute evidence. No questions asked. Even to the extent that he says : One cannot understand why people does not accept this ? Who is the one he is talking about. It is like talking to me and keep on asking the question:
"Of course you agree with me, don't you" This is irrational in my books.
Who are most prone to being irrational : Atheists, Some Christians, SomeVegetarians ,
Why do I say this ? They think they have a point but do not know what it is. They believe they are right without being able to say why or being prepared to listen - By the way you have 2 ears and one mouth.
You cannot get involved in a debate without being prepared to listen and to speak - Just make sense when you do.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Dare to move on
When was the last time you did something for the first time ? As one gets older this question is not something you think of or like to be reminded of. We live our lives comfortably in our comfort zones. Change is not something most persons like. The change cycle is worse than mount Everest for most of us.
I drove behind a car this morning with the sticker : In Pretoria praat ons Afrikaans. The Gauteng coat of arms on his number plate was covered over by the old Transvaal flag. Everyone of course is entitled to his own opinion, but this told me something. A lot of people got stuck somewhere in the past and somehow cannot move forward. This is not a political argument and I respect this guy for his opinion.
I also speak Afrikaans. I also live in Pretoria (Not Tshwane, as it is officially still Pretoria where I live)
I also respect the old Boer republics and their flags. But that is history and part of our heritage, but that is all it is. The reality is that we need to move on as time moves on. One can only live towards the future and unless you help create that future you are going to have this problem with the change cycle. While most other persons have moved on and faced new challenges and are doing new things for the first time some got stuck in the perceived mud and do not even know that it has stopped raining and that all there is is dust. And the "stuck" is now only in their minds as the imaginary chain is around the circus elephants leg.
I drove behind a car this morning with the sticker : In Pretoria praat ons Afrikaans. The Gauteng coat of arms on his number plate was covered over by the old Transvaal flag. Everyone of course is entitled to his own opinion, but this told me something. A lot of people got stuck somewhere in the past and somehow cannot move forward. This is not a political argument and I respect this guy for his opinion.
I also speak Afrikaans. I also live in Pretoria (Not Tshwane, as it is officially still Pretoria where I live)
I also respect the old Boer republics and their flags. But that is history and part of our heritage, but that is all it is. The reality is that we need to move on as time moves on. One can only live towards the future and unless you help create that future you are going to have this problem with the change cycle. While most other persons have moved on and faced new challenges and are doing new things for the first time some got stuck in the perceived mud and do not even know that it has stopped raining and that all there is is dust. And the "stuck" is now only in their minds as the imaginary chain is around the circus elephants leg.
Friday, August 27, 2010
Enjoying life irrespective
Irrespective of what ? I am using the word in the broadest possible meaing. Irrespective of anything !
So is this possible ?
Lets look at a few scenarios
In the first instance you need to change the way you look at things; Turn as many of the words in your vocabulary from the negative to the positive. It still has basically the same meaning but the attitude in the meaning has changed.
Now lets take the word : Problem
Definition :
A problem is an obstacle which makes it difficult to achieve a desired goal, objective or purpose. It refers to a situation, condition, or issue that is yet unresolved. In a broad sense, a problem exists when an individual becomes aware of a significant difference between what actually is and what is desired between one or more individual.
Now we change that word to "challenge"
A test of one's abilities or resources in a demanding but stimulating undertaking. A call to engage in a contest, fight, or competition:
The basic difference in the words are that a problem is stating a situation, an obstacle that exist preventing you from something. All definitions of challenge are action orientated. It implies you to do something !
If we now look at a "situation" where the word problem is used : I have a problem with my boss. This implies that the "problem" exist but I cannot do anything about it. When the sentence is changed to "challenge" it implies that I now have a call to engage the situation.
If this is applied every time you encounter a "Problem" you will suddenly find that it becomes that much easier if you engage the situation. Just remember when you do other smaller "problems" will suddenly appear and you must just do the same with these.
Now getting back to my "Enjoy life irrespective" If you go and look why you are not enjoying life you will find it has its roots in "problems" of some sort. Now haven't I given you a simple tool ?
Capice ?
So is this possible ?
Lets look at a few scenarios
In the first instance you need to change the way you look at things; Turn as many of the words in your vocabulary from the negative to the positive. It still has basically the same meaning but the attitude in the meaning has changed.
Now lets take the word : Problem
Definition :
A problem is an obstacle which makes it difficult to achieve a desired goal, objective or purpose. It refers to a situation, condition, or issue that is yet unresolved. In a broad sense, a problem exists when an individual becomes aware of a significant difference between what actually is and what is desired between one or more individual.
Now we change that word to "challenge"
A test of one's abilities or resources in a demanding but stimulating undertaking. A call to engage in a contest, fight, or competition:
The basic difference in the words are that a problem is stating a situation, an obstacle that exist preventing you from something. All definitions of challenge are action orientated. It implies you to do something !
If we now look at a "situation" where the word problem is used : I have a problem with my boss. This implies that the "problem" exist but I cannot do anything about it. When the sentence is changed to "challenge" it implies that I now have a call to engage the situation.
If this is applied every time you encounter a "Problem" you will suddenly find that it becomes that much easier if you engage the situation. Just remember when you do other smaller "problems" will suddenly appear and you must just do the same with these.
Now getting back to my "Enjoy life irrespective" If you go and look why you are not enjoying life you will find it has its roots in "problems" of some sort. Now haven't I given you a simple tool ?
Capice ?
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Funny people and vegetarians
It always amuses me when people that live alternative lifestyles find it necessary to make excuses for their preferences. Like Vegetarians and people that do not drink alcohol. Maybe it is a natural defense mechanism, like in attack before you get attacked.
In most of these cases you will also find that these persons will attack lifestyles that differ from theirs
(that is once they are comfortable with the fact that they have the upper hand by their initial excuses for not conforming. Whoever told them they have to explain their preferences? I do not explain mine.
I have a saying that annoys some of these friends of mine : "I did not get to the top of the food chain by eating grass!"
Please note that I am calling them friends because I have never found it necessary in commenting on their preference of veggies and fruit - hell I even eat some of the stuff myself ! ( sometimes anyway when I run low on the meaty stuff. )
Why am I writing this / I beg of you to leave my milk, eggs and meat alone - I do not believe the world is going to end because of this ( I do think there is more chemicals and pesticides in veggies than what you will find in good red meat anyway)
Now we can get into the arguments if you wish. I am going to state some beliefs that I will defend to the ends of the earth and because of this stop trying to get me to belief otherwise !
1. Butter is better than margarine.
2. Good red meat is good for you.
3. Red wine is very good for you.
4. When you eat , enjoy it , do not count the calories - It is food not maths you are having
(quote from the bible : Eat your food and drink your wine with gusto)
Oh and by the way - more than 90% of people will agree with me - how do I know ?
This week we had a business breakfast. 34 attendees. 30 chose the farmhouse breakfast - 4 chose the so called health breakfast. Farmhouse consisted of bacon, eggs, and boerewors. Health consisted of some fruit and Yogurt (by the way not vegetarian yogurt)
Let us leave the arguments and enjoy what you enjoy and leave the arguments to the scientists who think they know more.
In most of these cases you will also find that these persons will attack lifestyles that differ from theirs
(that is once they are comfortable with the fact that they have the upper hand by their initial excuses for not conforming. Whoever told them they have to explain their preferences? I do not explain mine.
I have a saying that annoys some of these friends of mine : "I did not get to the top of the food chain by eating grass!"
Please note that I am calling them friends because I have never found it necessary in commenting on their preference of veggies and fruit - hell I even eat some of the stuff myself ! ( sometimes anyway when I run low on the meaty stuff. )
Why am I writing this / I beg of you to leave my milk, eggs and meat alone - I do not believe the world is going to end because of this ( I do think there is more chemicals and pesticides in veggies than what you will find in good red meat anyway)
Now we can get into the arguments if you wish. I am going to state some beliefs that I will defend to the ends of the earth and because of this stop trying to get me to belief otherwise !
1. Butter is better than margarine.
2. Good red meat is good for you.
3. Red wine is very good for you.
4. When you eat , enjoy it , do not count the calories - It is food not maths you are having
(quote from the bible : Eat your food and drink your wine with gusto)
Oh and by the way - more than 90% of people will agree with me - how do I know ?
This week we had a business breakfast. 34 attendees. 30 chose the farmhouse breakfast - 4 chose the so called health breakfast. Farmhouse consisted of bacon, eggs, and boerewors. Health consisted of some fruit and Yogurt (by the way not vegetarian yogurt)
Let us leave the arguments and enjoy what you enjoy and leave the arguments to the scientists who think they know more.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
The Mind block
I am not a Pshycologist or any other shrink. I am just your average thinking human being,
But of late certain insights have hit me and as my friend Wayne would say " you can teach an old dog new tricks" Actually you cannot. But he can learn it if he wants to.
What is the key here ? Choices - I can make the choice to learn new tricks - you can try as hard as you want to but if I am not interested you will get nowhere !
Ok, so what? Any good shrink will tell you that more than 80% of your beliefs are governed by you subconscious mind. So if I decide to try something new and there are hidden beliefs that prevents me from having faith in the venture I am lost. Now this is in all probability the reason why so many ventures fail. It is because of these beliefs in our subconsious mind that prevents us from achieving success.
Simple isn't it ? Your shrink would have charged you around a thousand bucks to come to this point.
Ok but now I have stated the (shrinkwise) obvious. How do we change the scenario?
I am again stating this in laymans terms. I know I am going to get some smart replies, that is ok if it helps someone to understand this better. See ? I have made a statement that only Yesterday would not have been made as I believed that I am right and I really don't care what you think and I would have told you so ! What changed? I will tell you and this is the key to the whole thing: I made a concerted effort to not see all critisism as destructive which is in my nature. Now this is going to need effort. Whatever I decide my subconsious mind is going to block me if it does not fit into my belief system. This is a universal law.
Again to get to this point a shrink would have cost a you a few bucks. Belief me.
Right , now we(I) found out what the problem is and where it is. Now I have to do something about it.
I have been given a little gift yesterday by a gentleman called Conray Labuschagne and I am going to try the
remedy for a month or so. Some of you might have heard of it , some not. It is an elastic band.
It works something like this : You put it on your wrist and everytime you conciously know or find out that your idea is being blocked by your subconsious mind you pull this out as far as you can and let go.
"bloody hell, that was sore" Your subconscious mind will start associating that blocking or negative thought with pain and it will eventually stop its nonsense. Does it work ? I don't know, I am going to try it "Eina dammit, that was sore !) See the unconsious mind does not even like you messing with it. It is all in your beliefs.
Another few bucks to the Shrink. To be continued......................
But of late certain insights have hit me and as my friend Wayne would say " you can teach an old dog new tricks" Actually you cannot. But he can learn it if he wants to.
What is the key here ? Choices - I can make the choice to learn new tricks - you can try as hard as you want to but if I am not interested you will get nowhere !
Ok, so what? Any good shrink will tell you that more than 80% of your beliefs are governed by you subconscious mind. So if I decide to try something new and there are hidden beliefs that prevents me from having faith in the venture I am lost. Now this is in all probability the reason why so many ventures fail. It is because of these beliefs in our subconsious mind that prevents us from achieving success.
Simple isn't it ? Your shrink would have charged you around a thousand bucks to come to this point.
Ok but now I have stated the (shrinkwise) obvious. How do we change the scenario?
I am again stating this in laymans terms. I know I am going to get some smart replies, that is ok if it helps someone to understand this better. See ? I have made a statement that only Yesterday would not have been made as I believed that I am right and I really don't care what you think and I would have told you so ! What changed? I will tell you and this is the key to the whole thing: I made a concerted effort to not see all critisism as destructive which is in my nature. Now this is going to need effort. Whatever I decide my subconsious mind is going to block me if it does not fit into my belief system. This is a universal law.
Again to get to this point a shrink would have cost a you a few bucks. Belief me.
Right , now we(I) found out what the problem is and where it is. Now I have to do something about it.
I have been given a little gift yesterday by a gentleman called Conray Labuschagne and I am going to try the
remedy for a month or so. Some of you might have heard of it , some not. It is an elastic band.
It works something like this : You put it on your wrist and everytime you conciously know or find out that your idea is being blocked by your subconsious mind you pull this out as far as you can and let go.
"bloody hell, that was sore" Your subconscious mind will start associating that blocking or negative thought with pain and it will eventually stop its nonsense. Does it work ? I don't know, I am going to try it "Eina dammit, that was sore !) See the unconsious mind does not even like you messing with it. It is all in your beliefs.
Another few bucks to the Shrink. To be continued......................
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